Opportunity?

Opportunity or challenge.

Glass half full or glass half empty. Or appreciation and awe that we even have a glass?

Optimism or pessimism. Internal or external locus of control.

Every interaction: An opportunity, or a challenge.

Every pitch. Every workshop. Every date. Every meeting. Every conversation. Every interview.

Everyday.

Everything.

Opportunity?

Or challenge?

My belief is that the subtle difference between these mentalities can play a deciding role in the path to success.

Let’s choose Opportunity.

It's Not Important

It’s not important.

Or it’s extremely important.

Sport. Money. Owning a house. Travelling. Nice shoes. Awards.

None of those are important.

Or they’re all extremely important.

Two weeks ago, I went to the Liverpool Supporters Club in Edenvale to watch Liverpool play Manchester City in the Quarter Final of the Champions League. Spoiler alert: Liverpool won. Each goal was celebrated with some of the most unbridled joy I’ve ever felt in my whole life. Don't judge me.

South Africa beat Australia in style in the most recent cricket test match series. I loved every second of it.

Rose Namajunas retained the UFC Strawweight Title a few weeks ago. I was on the edge of my seat for every jab she slipped and every right hook she landed.

I don’t know these people. I don’t make any money out of any of these victories (I feel like gambling wouldn’t be the best idea for me). Yet I passionately kick every ball, play every shot, and throw every punch emotionally as if I am there.

I constantly ask myself why? None of these things are important. In fact, you could argue that in the context of my live, they couldn’t be less important.

I am invested.

I made it important.

I bought into the story.

I have made these things more.

More than just sport: A journey, good guys and bad guys, underdogs, tactical battles, one leadership team versus another, contrasting personality types.

I have allowed myself to indulge in these views, and it has given sport importance to me.

The same can be said of an appreciation for any hobby, collecting luxury items, a passion for rocks, dinosaurs, comic books, watches, cars, comic books, travel, movies, wealth or anything else. To some people, dressing up as a life-sized dog and eating dog food is important. No judgement here.

None of it is important. It’s all important.

If it gives you joy and it's not hurting anyone, cherish it. 

Every aspect of life is what we make it.

It’s either not important at all, or all extremely important, or we each pick and choose what is important. That’s what makes it interesting. That’s what makes getting to know each other worthwhile.

When my important is the same as your important, we are involved in the same community, a “tribe”, as Seth Godin would say. When my important differs to yours, we are given the opportunity to compare and learn.

Let’s appreciate, celebrate and share each other’s important.

Here's wishing you a weekend full of importance.

A romantic view of asking for what we want

We have desires on our hearts. We have goals, we have ambitions.

We also have so many reasons not to pursue what we want. We fear failure. We fear rejection.

Because honestly – it feels absolutely horrible to fail. It feels disgusting to get rejected. Hurt and pain associated with knowing you can’t have what you want is like getting kicked in the face by a really unattractive horse.

But there is only one feeling that is worse than knowing you can’t have what you want…

And that’s the feeling that you never tried.
The regret of wondering what could have been if you acted.

If you ask for what you want, you just might get it.  Along with that, you will feel a joy that comes with the courage regardless of outcome.

“You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great could come of it” Benjamin Mee

I understand there is a time for reason, and for patience. But I would argue that there is such a thing as too much reason, or too much patience. 

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not advocating for stupidity. We have to check the narrative we are telling ourselves, mentally prepare for disappointment and understand that we live in the real world when taking that leap.

With that said, occasionally it is worth picking up that phone, getting on that plane or knocking on that door, and literally asking for that opportunity. The only downside is unpleasant short term emotional pain. This pain can then be channeled as a learning and can help inform a better approach for your next goal. It could be an avenue that you can cross off, one less avenue to travel, and more information gained about yourself and the world.

Take a moment, move on, and onto the next one.

The possible upside? At the risk of sounding clichéd – a dream could come true. At the very least you could take the next step on a journey that invigorates and excites your soul. That’s pretty cool.

Perhaps it is better to go out on your sword, knowing that you acted, than be left with empty justifications and rationalizations of not acting. As Ryan Holiday says, “courage at its most basic is taking action… Saying yes, let’s go”.

After all… is life not just a series of seasons and opportunities for us to pursue what is on our heart, wholeheartedly?